We’re Living in a Multi-Trauma Crisis. Here’s Why Relational Healing Is Our Most Radical Act
We are living through a time of collective breakdown—climate collapse, war, loneliness, and inherited pain.
What if I told you that the most powerful way to interrupt this devastation begins inside the home, inside the body, inside you?
I just wrote the most important thing I’ve ever created—and I need your help getting it into as many hands, hearts, and homes as possible.
My book, Healing Relational Trauma: Move Beyond Painful Childhood Experiences to Deepen Self-Understanding and Build Authentic Relationships, was born from both my personal journey and years of clinical and systems-level work. In a conversation with Dr. Vincent Felitti, co-creator of the groundbreaking ACES study, he said something I haven’t been able to forget:
“Unintentional parenting is one of the greatest public health crises of our time.”
Generational Trauma Hides in Plain Sight.
When we are unhealed, we pass our pain—unknowingly, unwillingly—onto our children. And they pass it on to theirs. This is generational trauma. It hides in plain sight. It shows up in our parenting, our relationships, our bodies, our workplaces, and in how we treat ourselves when no one’s looking.
This book is my call to interrupt that cycle.
Grounded in trauma-informed neuro and behavioral science, the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) study, inspired by decades of research on the children of Holocaust survivors and other genocides, and supplemented my extensive social work expertise , Healing Relational Trauma helps us name what we’ve inherited—and choose what we refuse to pass on.
But this isn’t just theory. It’s personal.
My Own Story.
I didn’t write this book because I had it all figured out.
I wrote it because I’ve lived what so many people are silently carrying.
I grew up in a home shaped by chaos, silence, and survival. I witnessed domestic violence, verbal and psychological abuse. There were no boundaries, inconsistent consequences, and no belief in mental health support. Praised for my resilience early, I became the child who held too much and received too little.
Just before college, I watched two of my central caregivers lose their vitality—one to a sudden and debilitating illness that striped her mobility and eyesight, the other to a stroke that stripped away his voice and spirit. My mother, carrying her own pain, became a caregiver once again—navigating years of invisible labor and quiet heartbreak. The unhealed pain of those who raised me shaped how I learned to survive.
By the time I reached adulthood, I was carrying the weight of depression, anxiety, complex PTSD, poor sense of self, low self-worth, and a deep distrust in the world.
I dissociated. I overworked. I people-pleased. I was the high-functioning fixer in every room. And I thought about dying more than I ever let on.
But I also made myself a promise—to find a way out.
I spent my 20s and 30s healing—one day at a time—even as I helped others do the same. Brick by brick, I built a home inside myself. And today, I can say with clarity and pride: I broke my family’s legacy of survival and replaced it with a life rooted in ease, peace, freedom, and fulfillment.
I wrote down the most essential parts of that journey—because I needed others to know: healing is possible.
It's hard, yes. But it’s not hopeless.
Every day, I help people carve out their own path to freedom, clarity, and connection.
Over the last 15 years, I’ve worked as a therapist, researcher, consultant, supervisor, writer, and educator—including helping to lead a multi-million dollar overhaul of the child welfare system in Australia.
I know what it takes to shift systems. It starts by shifting hearts.
And I can’t do this alone.
We Are Living in a Time of Collective Unraveling.
We’re living in what some experts are calling a poly-trauma era—climate crisis, digital disconnection, technofeudalism, pandemic fallout, political instability, and potential war. The government won’t save us. Institutions can’t move fast enough. We have to save each other. And that begins by healing from the inside out.
This book belongs in the hands of everyone—in homes, hospitals, birthing centers, schools, yoga studios, midwifery practices, foster care programs. Anywhere there are humans. Anywhere healing is possible.
My Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal?
To get this book into every school, hospital, birthing center, therapist’s office, library, and home where people are trying to raise, hold, or heal each other.
How You Can Help
Here are tangible ways to help this movement grow:
Expand Access
Buy a copy of Healing Relational Trauma
Gift a copy to someone who’s healing or parenting
Ask your local bookstore to carry it
Spread the Word
Leave a review on Amazon or Goodreads
Share the book on your LinkedIn or social channels
Join or start a book club
Make Strategic Connections
Connect me with change-makers in education, healthcare, parenting or mental health
Introduce me to institutions that could use this book as a resource
Suggest the book to therapists, doctors, yoga teachers, principles, midwives
Start Small, Start at Home
Talk to your parent about the harm they unintentionally caused
Talk to your child about their feelings — make them feel seen
Turn to your partner and ask for what you need, unapologetically
Begin implementing trauma-informed practices in your home or workplace
Advocate for Systemic Change
Recommend the book as a professional resource in hospitals, schools or HR departments
If you’re in a position of influence, initiate conversations around relational trauma and healing
Push for training, curriculum and support services rooted in trauma-informed care
These are not small actions.
These are the first threads in a different future.
Thank you for helping this work grow. Thank you for being part of this healing revolution.
With love, fire, and fierce hope,
